10 Things That Make You Unhappy

by Alli

Hit or Miss Wednesday is a little, OK , a lot different today!  It’s not a recipe or a project!  It’s all about something I read on twitter.  Was the article I read on twitter a hit or miss?

I’ve been trying to get more into twitter because, frankly, it’s just not my first choice for social media.  So, I made myself scroll through my timeline the other day and I actually saw a few articles that I was interested in.  And if you want to follow me on twitter, you can do so here!  (What a shameless plug for my blog!)

As we all know, interesting headlines are what draw us into reading an article.  If the headline doesn’t grab us, we tend to walk on by.

When I saw a heading entitled 10 Things That Are Scientifically Proven to Make You Unhappy, I had to see what it was all about because I’m a happy person and  Don’t worry, Be happy is my motto!

Of course, I had to shorten the headline to 10 Things That Make You Unhappy!

Ten Things That Make You Unhappy

I’m not going to weigh in on every one of these statements, just three.  Here’s my take!

Facebook

There  was a study done at the University of Michigan that found a direct correlation between time spent on social media sites and feelings of dissatisfaction, loneliness and isolation.

My take:  Get a life!  The only way I can see Facebook making me unhappy is if you unsubscribed to my page!  Yep, that would do it.  And we all have those friends that we threaten to hide because of all their drama!  I mean, really, sometimes I blush because of TMI.  As my daughter, Caitlin, says, “Face your problems, don’t facebook them.”  Wise girl.  I was taught the difference between those things we talk about in public and things that should be kept private.  Enough said.

Oh, yeah, you can follow me on Facebook right here!

Too Much Money

I have to vehemently disagree.  Money is not evil.  I’ve never had a dollar bill try to hurt me, hold me at gun point or kidnap me.  It’s the love of money that corrupts people.  Money is neutral.  It has no feelings.  I will volunteer to be a part of a study if they would give me too much money and see if it would make me unhappy.

Living at High Altitude

I don’t live in a high altitude, so basically I should leave this alone.  Never!  My sister lives in Colorado and I’ve visited enough to make myself a self appointed expert.

I have to somewhat agree with this one.  Every time I visit Colorado, I struggle with walking up a flight of stairs.  My sister laughs at me because she has lived there almost 30 years!  Come back home, Melinda!  🙂  She’s acclimated (I would hope so!) and it doesn’t bother her a bit.  And she’s very happy!  So I say hit and Melinda says miss on this one!

On a  serious note (and I hope you’ve read my blog long enough to know that I’m rarely serious), this article is neither a hit or a miss.  It’s neutral.  Just like money!

It’s your turn!  You are invited to weigh in on any of these statements, mine included!  Do you agree with the 10 things that make you unhappy?

Don't Worry

 

 

 

30 comments

addie May 21, 2014 - 8:46 am

a wandering mind and overanalyzing are the two I do the most.. it is so annoying. I’m working to train my mind to not be that way.

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zan May 21, 2014 - 10:10 am

I do no know that I agree with all of these but I definitely could see how poor sibling relationship could make someone unhappy. I have very good relations with my siblings but I know folks who are a little unhappy because they don’t have good relationships.
BTW: Love your daughter’s response to facing your problems not facebooking them – never thought of it this way!

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 10:33 am

I could also see how having sibling trouble could make you unhappy. I get along great with my siblings, so not a problem for me.

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Kristen from The Road to Domestication May 21, 2014 - 10:43 am

Great thoughts here, Alli! I think it’s all about perspective, really. Life is what you make it, no matter the circumstances!

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 11:33 am

Totally agree, Kristen!

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Anna @ Northern Homestead May 21, 2014 - 1:53 pm

8 I think is a Hit! Junk food is just bad in every way. And becouse it messes up harmons an gut flora it sure does effect our mood.

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 2:17 pm

Agreed!

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Madaline May 21, 2014 - 11:05 am

For me it’s def number 9. I think and think and think until I’m like omg did I make the right decision? Now that I’m a mom it’s a little better because I just don’t have the time and have to really live moment by moment.

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 11:35 am

I used to over think everything, but when I turned 40 I stopped over analyzing everything and began practicing “Will it matter in 10 year?” Then when I turned 50 a few years ago, a free spirit must have alighted in me, because I became a totally care free person. 🙂

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Amanda Smith May 21, 2014 - 11:34 am

I agree with several of these. One that sticks out is that too many choices makes you unhappy. In the short term it definitely frustrates me and can lead me to overgeneralize my decisions. And I think it frustrates kids too. I give my son and our grand kids two or three things to choose from. Any more is too much for them too.

And I agree with you. Money is neutral. It does not make one unhappy and it can’t make you happy either. As long as your priorities are in order:God, others, self, then money is of no consequence.

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 1:49 pm

Amanda, two many choices can frustrate me, too. I remember when one of my daughters was small and we would go to a local ice cream parlor. There were too many flavor choices for her!

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Tiffany May 21, 2014 - 12:09 pm

I totally agree with you about Facebook…I would and will neve allow a Social Media network or site to make me unhappy. It is what you allow it to be. Great post!

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Bobbie May 21, 2014 - 12:43 pm

So true!

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aimee fauci May 21, 2014 - 12:57 pm

FB can stress me out BUT I learn to ‘hide’ the folks that stress me out.. aka my oldest daughter and her mom… UGH.. love them both (her mom to a certain degree) but DANG… Also had to ‘hide’ my sisters… Oh geez that leads to the #5.. it does stink not to have a sibling relationship.

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 1:46 pm

I’ve hidden a few people myself, namely a young girl that kept throwing the F bomb at her mom. I sent her a really sweet pm letting her know how wrong it was and she basically threw the bomb at me. And I was just an innocent bystander.

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Shirley Wood May 21, 2014 - 1:02 pm

Once social media begins to interfere with our daily psyche, we simply must walk away. Happiness or Unhappiness should not be influenced by social media!
I have never had ‘too much money’ so I can’t attest to how that would make me unhappy, although my guess would be that it wouldn’t:-)
The word I would use for all but one is Frustrated. I can see how everything except Poor Sibling Relationships could make a person frustrated, not unhappy. None of them are permanent situations.
I’d be disappointed in myself for eating junk food….too often, but not unhappy.
My brother and I get along just fine but if we didn’t, I’d likely be sad about it.
Alli, this was kind of fun. Did I overanalyze?

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Alli May 21, 2014 - 1:42 pm

Just a tad, but I love it. 😉

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Shirley ~Light Love Hope May 21, 2014 - 3:28 pm

Ohhhhh, this is sooooo good!! I really enjoyed this today. I may just weigh in on my blog on some of the others, with your permission of course and linking to yours if I do so everyone can read your words on the ones you covered. I’ll try to choose different ones, although I loved what you said about Facebook and money. True! VERY true! Have I mentioned how much I enjoyed this today? I DID!!! Thank you!

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Alli May 22, 2014 - 3:48 am

Thanks, Shirley! Feel free to use anything you want from my blog! 🙂

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Alex | Thrifty Below May 21, 2014 - 5:12 pm

I don’t think I agree with all of these (and I have no experience with living at high altitude) but a lot are very true. I totally echo what others have said about Facebook and other social media sites. Besides having to wade through all of the negative energy on there, you’re severely limiting your true social interactions.

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Alli May 22, 2014 - 3:56 am

I basically use Facebook (besides my blog page) to keep up with friends and family from my hometown. I’m just not into drama at all!

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Alvina Castro May 21, 2014 - 7:54 pm

most of these are not me. AT ALL! but some i can totally relate to and see how they could lead me to unhappiness. Thanks for sharing these and i have to say #9 would best relate to me

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Heidi May 22, 2014 - 11:21 am

The same goes for the end of a favorite book–especially if it was a series. I always find myself feeling depressed for a few days when I know I can’t find out any more about my favorite characters.

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Alli May 23, 2014 - 5:58 am

I always hate to end a good book. It’s like having to say goodbye to new friends.

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Martha May 23, 2014 - 8:13 am

Hmm.. tough question..
I do not think nothing of these can make you unhappy by its own [except from poor sibling relationships]
I think if something of these makes us unhappy its because something deeper is in our minds.

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Alli May 23, 2014 - 10:07 am

Agreed, Martha!

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Alex May 24, 2014 - 8:41 am

I agree with you about it being neither a hit or miss.

All of these things have the potential to make you unhappy if you let them. But you kind of alluded to it in the Facebook paragraph– taking ownership and dealing with things! Not letting things like Facebook, TV or food be the deciding factor in your happiness.

Thank you for sharing!!

Alex @ Lavender’s Blue

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