12 Ways to Take Back Your Holiday Romance

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Does your romance take a back seat during the busy holiday season?  Hey, I understand! From early October (think fall & Halloween) until New Year’s Day, I’m busier than any other time of the year.  I’m cooking, cleaning, shopping and cooking some more.

Take Back Your Holiday Romance

Sure, I love the holidays, but sometimes it seems that my husband and I are like ships passing in the night.  Do you ever feel that way?  This year I’m determined to add a little spice to my holiday life, so I sat down and came up with 12 Ways to Take Back Your Holiday Romance.

12 Ways to Take Back Your Holiday Romance

1. Pencil your spouse in.

I know it may sound harsh to schedule time with your significant other, but listen up.  The holiday season is busier than normal.  If you want time together, you have to make time together.  Pick up that pencil and start scheduling.

Plan time with hubby - 12 Ways to Add Spice to Your Holidays

2.  Whisper sweet nothings.

You can do this as you walk by each other on your way out the door in the morning AND by text throughout the day. Let your partner know that you love him,  you’re thinking of him and are looking forward to seeing him.  It feels great to be reassured that you’re loved!

3.  Re-create your first date.

Do you remember your first date?  I do and it was over 33 years ago!  We went to a seafood restaurant and had crab stuffed mushrooms for an appetizer.  I thought I was dipping a mushroom in a ranch style dipping sauce, but it turned out to be horseradish.  I got choked and the waiter ran over to check on me. It’s funny now, but I don’t think I’ll re-create that part.  But that first date led to this:

Holiday Romance

4.  Go Christmas shopping together.

Don’t roll your eyes.  I do most of my holiday shopping online, but my husband and I always plan one day that we shop all day long to finish up the lists.  We always take time for a nice lunch and an afternoon coffee break at our favorite coffee shop.  We laugh, talk, listen to Christmas carols in the car and have a really good time.

5.  Watch a movie or old TV show that you both love.

Once the kids are in bed, make S’mores and popcorn, pour cups of hot cocoa and snuggle together on the sofa and watch an old flick. (No cell phones allowed.)

6.  Do chores together.

Dreaded chores go by much faster when you have some help and it’s the perfect time to actually talk to each other.

7.  Take a drive around your neighborhood/town and look at Christmas decorations.

8.  Surprise your spouse with tickets for a holiday musical or ballet.

A couple of years ago my husband surprised me with tickets to see my favorite holiday ballet. He also booked an upscale hotel suite for the night. We got dressed up, had a beautiful dinner and a night on the town. What a romantic weekend!

9.  Cook dinner together.

Crank up the music and slow dance around the kitchen island as you prepare dinner together.  It’s a great time to unwind and reconnect.

10.  Play a board game.

Yes, a board game can be anything but boring and lead to some intimate moments.  Try it!

11.  Go to bed at the same time.

Did you know that most couples usually go to bed at different times?  In order to take back your holiday romance, you’ve got to make a conscious effort to go to bed together.  Enough said.

12.  Give a gift of intimacy.

Create a romantic Christmas stocking filled with products to ignite passion.  Include chocolate (of course), a holiday scented candle, a love letter, a bath bomb, scented soaps, and K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants®.

Take Back the Romance

It took just a few minutes to stuff my LOVE stocking with everything needed for a romantic night with my husband.

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Did you notice that I stuffed my LOVE stocking with items for my husband and myself?

Romantic Stocking Stuffers

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Take Back the Holiday Romance

I encourage you to try at least a few of my 12 Ways to Take Back Your Holiday Romance! How do you keep the holiday romance alive?


About Alli

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  1. I can surely relate to being super busy this time of year. Not only is the hubby working a lot of overtime for extra Christmas money, I am also busy sewing up dance costumes for the upcoming Christmas recital. I really love these great ideas for fitting in some extra romance time during this busy time of year, especially the love stocking 🙂
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    • I can’t imagine adding sewing dance costumes to my to-do list. Of course, I can’t sew, so that would never happen. I admire that you are such an accomplished seamstress. My mom made all of my Barbie and other doll outfits when I was little (in addition to most of my special occasion clothing). 🙂

  2. I just told my hubby the other day that lingerie is a gift for both of us that keeps on giving. (I love VS sales!) ?? I want to surprise him with a love stocking now, thanks to your ideas! Last year he surprised me with a trip to a Nutcracker themed castle followed by dinner & outlet shopping (that I didn’t even know existed). This year we plan to attend Mark Schulz’s Christmas concert (sitter is already booked). Thank you for always encouraging married couples to keep the flame lit.

    • I love surprise outings during the Christmas season. That concert sounds awesome. Hope you have lots of fun! Lingerie is definitely a gift that keeps on giving. 🙂

  3. Awww this post makes me miss my fiance a lot 🙂
    I love how your list sounds so simple and do-able.
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  4. Thanks for all of these ideas. We got married on Christmas Eve so the holidays are always full of romance for us.

  5. The pictures of you and your husband are so beautiful! These are great ways to keep the spice going in a relationship! I agree that making time for each other (even scheduling it into the calendar) is key!
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  6. I am loving this 12 ways and I think they should be used all year round, I know it does sound a bit eeh penciling your partner into your daily schedule but most times its the only way you get to spend time together
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  7. I really love the idea of re-creating your first day. What a great way to recapture the romance in your relationship <3
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  8. These are all great ideas! The holidays can be so busy especially with kids but keeping the romance alive is important.
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  9. Anita Fonte says

    What wonderful ideas for a romantic evening with your spouse, or significant other. My husband and I make appointments with each other. Usually after the kids are asleep or when grandma takes them for the night.

  10. These are some awesome ideas. Omg horseradish! I bet you were totally freaked out. I ate a little too much of it once and it knocked the air out of me.
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  11. It can be hard to keep connected during the holidays, especially because our schedules are so crazy. You’ve got great tips here!
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  12. Rebecca Swenor says

    These are all great ways to take back your holiday romance. It is so true about being so busy and it is so important not to forget that special someone . I love the idea of recreating your first date or giving the little intimate gift. Thanks for sharing the ideas.

  13. What a great post Alli. You and your husband make a great couple. It can be stressful to keep the romance alive with our busy schedules. I agree it’s time to take it back.

  14. I love #9 (cooking together). I think I’m going to have to book a date night in soon :).

  15. Cute post 🙂 That wedding pic is AWESOME! Love the idea of #3, will have to try that!
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  16. What a fun idea! I never thought of a Love Stocking before but that may have to happen this year!
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  17. Thank you for the ideas! It’s so easy to neglect the ones you love during the business of the holidays!
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  18. It’s so easy to get caught up in the holiday excitement (and madness) and forget about spending true quality time with our partners. Thanks for sharing these romantic ideas! #client
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  19. Sometimes you have to schedule some special time with the spouse. So important to keep the romance alive!
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  20. It’s hard to have time together when life is involved. I totally understand the scheduling time together! We try to do a date day once a month. Our kids go to their grandparents for a day of fun and we get time alone. Congrats on being together for over 33 years!

  21. Do you tend to detect when anything is brought to your consideration it’s
    difficult to prohibit it away?
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